The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.

Posted by Tom Megginson | 7-06-2010 21:22 | Category: Human rights

Created by comedy directors Will Speck and Josh Gordon, and starring Justin Long, Mike White, Tom Arnold and Nora Dunn, this three-and-a-half minute video plays out the old joke about homosexual marriage “making gay people suffer just like the rest of us”.

As The Advocate notes, this is “a video campaign designed to show that gay people struggle with the same miseries as other married couples.” The objective is to get Californians to rethink their support of Proposition 8, which restricts the definition of marriage to opposite-sex couples only.

The idea that long-term gay couples experience the same relationship issues as straight ones is hardly new. And to a happily married person of any persuasion , marriage-bashing is tiresome, But this video is cleverly scripted and gets through the obvious jokes pretty efficiently.

The only problem, of course, is that it is unlikely any of the 7+ million Californians who object to equal marriage will be willing to watch a video about gay men getting married, having sex, fighting, and masturbating in front of computers. Like many activist campaigns, it makes the mistake of entertaining or bolstering its supporters rather than making a real effort to reach its detractors.

For those who are offended by a penis surfboard, there is also a “safe for work” censored version of the video:

Make Homosexuals Marry


Comments about The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.

Brilliantly scripted, cast and acted. Probably won’t change anyone’s mind but will, and should, be shared everywhere – draws attention to the subject in a brilliant way.

Posted by Reuben Turner | 11-06-2010 11:07

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